But can I say that some of these girls/women turn out beautiful after the op.(PS I'm confused cause I don't know if that makes me gay or not) One of them was Kim Petras and I was just like wow. Do you think that a Trans gender women has the responsibility of telling their potential partner/suitor of their medical history?
If you were in a long relationship with a trans person and figured out about the op later, what would be your thoughts and what would you do?
Over facetime or on a public date is much preferable to telling him just before an intimate encounter. And remember, if he's worth dating, then he won't be a jerk about it.
I know this isn't a popular opinion, but my approach has always been to be completely transparent as early as I can, but still to do it gently.
And the first thing he will do is toss that trans woman aside like an old issue of Essence and grab the first available genetic woman and parade her around on his arm, so people will know that he is totally straight.
And for any girl who plans on going to surgery and thinking she’s going to be as hot and desirable as a Playboy centerfold or music video dancer, forget it. Don’t delude yourself into thinking that after you have surgery your shit will smell like Donna Karan’s, Cashmere Mist.
I still like you very much, and hope you feel the same. Of course, all of this is up to you, but you asked for a specific "how to," so I thought I'd let you know how I've phrased it in the past.
It's not perfect, and it's not truly reflective of what it means to be trans, but it's a start.
I never dated pre-op as the thought of two bodies with two penises meeting never appealed to me, but that's just me.In my heart and soul, I've always been a girl, and once I was able to, I made physical changes to live the way I've always felt inside.I understand if you haven't really come across this in the past, but please know this doesn't change any part of what we've had so far. “And after I have surgery, I’ll be able to do something about it. ” She said most guys who liked pre-ops were looking for someone to fuck them. And if he “dates her,” the bulk of them will probably want to do it on the down low. And in some instances, dating her will mean visiting her apartment and watching a movie or listening to music. He may want to come over and drop his pants, get a nut and leave. Most men will see you as nothing more than a beautiful oddity that they will not take you seriously. And if people get a whiff of his interest or involvement with her, he will be ridiculed. Better wait until you're post op (that is if you're planning on having it of course).