And for all those times he tried to strip me of my spirit and I felt I had no value, I made it my mission.Although domestic violence defines you in ways beyond comprehension, I will only allow it to push me further than I ever dreamed, beyond all doubts and fears, and towards my bliss.The hell became so familiar that it was easier to stay rather than leave.It was easier to live with the shame and guilt in secrecy.
* 1 in 10 teens reported being hit or physically hurt by a boyfriend/girlfriend * Across studies, 15-40% of youth report perpetrating some form of violence towards a dating partner * Perpetrating dating violence in adolescence increases the risk of perpetrating violence toward a partner in adulthood * Exposure to dating violence significantly affects a range of mental and physical health problems If you are in an abusive situation, please seek help.I am not bitter or resentful, I forgave him the day I left, but I knew I wanted more out of life.Although I had been stripped of all remnants of self-worth, I found an ounce of esteem that told me I deserved better.I ended up in the hospital a few times and was put in counseling but I never spoke about the abuse. Nobody knew about the many deliberate close call, head-on collisions while he was threatening to "kill us both." Finally, after almost eight years of abuse, I knew I had to leave. I knew that if I continued on this path, I might never see the light through the darkness. I knew if I didn't leave I could fall back into the cycle.Not because of some fight or big blowout, I was just done. I knew if I wanted any life at all, I had to choose me no matter what the cost. It took many years to repair the mental and emotional damage, but I'm here to say that it is possible.It soon progressed to name-calling, insults, unfounded accusations, degradation, humiliation, and isolation.