I really needed to be around people my age — I needed someone to talk to and to make some new friends. Because I invited them back to the farm without considering the fact that they are vegan — which is cool, I’m also vegan, so we had that in common. They got me to question my own complicity in working with the same organization that, as a side project, also runs this CAFO. Do you feel like you were able to have any kind of productive conversation with them about the realities of farming? We talked about how destructive and awful agriculture can be.
So I made an OKCupid profile, and I guess that’s how that started. Probably my worst experience would be with the person who I had the best OKCupid experience with. And on our farm is a confined feedlot dairy operation, which I’m not directly involved and which upsets me, and it also really upset my date. And were they eager to go back to the farm after that experience? They haven’t been back to the farm since, and actually we haven’t hung out since then.
Marshall, 26, Mississippi: Fifth-generation pig farmer Can you tell me a little bit about your experiences trying to meet women in the area around your farm?
I guess it’s ironic because I’m a local producer and always stressing local, but as far as females go I usually, uh, have to import from other places or meet girls at other places.
What would you say has been your best OKCupid experience since moving out there? Leah, 32, Montana: Fourth-generation cattle rancher Before you got married, did you ever date another rancher? We went to college together, he was also in the school of ag.
And when we left, we just tried to make it work and it’s been kind of a battle, being so far apart when she was finishing school, but now she’s back in the South, which is great.I grew up here and I love this place and there’s a really powerful connection that I have with it.[My girlfriend] understands that, and she really loves the farm.And I drove out to meet them one night and they seemed really great, we got along really well. Growing up here, I didn’t ever date any ranch or agriculture-type kids.We went for a walk in the woods, they cut their own hair, I cut my own hair. No, sorry, we talked about how we each cut our own hair. So we hung out and talked, and that was really nice. It seemed like they were all just friends, you know?In your mid-20s, if you’re doing something offbeat it’s considered really cool, and I always get positive reactions from the opposite sex for that type of thing.