Scared to start dating again


After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. Background: I'm in my early 30s and attractive and have never had problems finding a date, and I dated extensively in my 20s.

However, since my last two relationships went south, I am completely relationship phobic.

I feared that my old behavior patterns were out of my control and that I was unable to really change them in the way I would need to be happy and experience genuine love.

For those of us who have been disappointed in relationships to the point that we're scared to date again, the problem isn't necessarily that we're scared of getting hurt again or even that we don't have faith in our own abilities.

A few years ago while abroad, I went through a very challenging relationship with a guy I was dating for only four months.

This difficult relationship left me in this state of uncertainty, disappointment and distrust.

I just don't EVER want to feel like I did again after the last break up, I was a mess, it just hurt so bad.

However, I've always wanted to get married and don't see why I should give up on my dreams to find a great guy and share my life.

That said, I don't want to end up alone, having missed out on the wonderful, amazing thing that is a good marriage. So, is anyone else going through something similar? Please impart some wisdom as I am surely in need of it. The best thing you can do is to throw caution to the wind, go on some dates and see what happens.The problem is that we don't believe that we're worthy.So here are three things we can do to break free from this fear and open our hearts again to a new relationship.1. When we've experienced a lot of heartbreak and disappointment, we try to convince ourselves that we don't really want a supportive and loving relationship.Everyone has to step back up to the plate sometime. It sounds like you need encouragement from a close friend, or family. Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. Over ,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!

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