Men with AS often have some of the following traits, but they will vary in both number and level of severity from person to person: 1.A special interest (e.g., coin collecting) is common in males with AS, and this may be something they have pursued for years.They will be passionate about it and often have an extensive collection of related items as well as incredible knowledge on the subject. Although AS males are often highly intelligent, they may have held down a menial job or drifted from job to job for years.This stems from their problems with social skills and communication. An AS man may have a pet (often a dog) that he becomes quite attached to.This post is not designed to blame or ridicule men on the spectrum, and it should be noted that they do have more strengths than weaknesses (which we discuss a lot on this site).But for the purposes of this post, we will focus on some of the features associated with AS that can negatively impact romantic relationships.To have another adult to talk to is worth more than anything. Compliments are the hardest thing to give and to take. I have been driven into a rage more than I care to admit by his rudeness, and into despair, near suicidal, living with someone who has so little empathy. He even took an online test where I felt he basically lied so that it would not come out as Aspergers.
Typically they have a much lower capacity for social interaction than a “typical” man. Many AS men have learned to lie to help them cope with life.
I have dropped my non-AS 'friends' over the years as I was unable to meet their expectations that I should change to be more like them.
They never tried to understand me, yet expected ME to understand THEM!
In marriage, these qualities may become a point of contention if his spouse/partner becomes frustrated by his lack of communication.
Additional traits in some AS men include the following: In no way is the above information provided to discourage relationships with AS men. These men often do the best they can in relationships.
I know he is dependent on me for his social and family life, not to mention finances.