Internet dating doesnt work

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No longer is it the cheesy marriage bureau, but the thousands of contacts available through online dating agencies.Joining a dating agency is a simple step by step process that varies at every agency.If you choose one of the many online dating agencies available, you begin by taking a tour of their site.Check out the testimonies of couples who met on that site and later married or had a family.

Most people met friends, lovers and mates either through family connections or sheer geographic proximity (the girl next door, for example).

Dating does require effort, but if you already have to work at dating someone, you’ve got issues. As I said in my last post on Future Faking and Fast Forwarding, if you can’t handle the emotional consequences of making mistakes or being disappointed, aside from slowing down and rolling back your level of investment, I would address these areas so that you can date with a reasonable level of confidence and not feel like it’s a ride or die situation.

I’m not saying that there might not be a hiccup here or there, but if you start dating someone and you’re already feeling like you have to ‘work’ at a relationship you don’t have, the rot will set in fast. Our job when we date, aside from hopefully enjoying ourselves, is to work out what and who we’re dealing with before we make a commitment to have an exclusive relationship and before we feel safe enough to put both feet in and invest ourselves. Manage your insecurities, address any limiting beliefs, and don’t make dating a vocation.

Once you've chosen a site, you have only to fill out their questionnaire.

You will be asked questions which reveal your interests and goals, your character and lifestyle habits, your traits and spiritual beliefs, as well as the details of what you are looking for in a potential match.

You need more than physical and sexual attraction – you should be getting an initial sense of their values and whether they treat you with care, trust and respect, and of course match words with actions.

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