It all started when a classmate named Jeremy began showing interest in her.
’” IF SOMEONE were attracted to made such a suggestion, how would you respond?
You might be surprised to learn that, at first, Jessica went along with Jeremy’s plan. First, let’s see how even an otherwise exemplary Christian youth like Jessica could unwittingly get caught in the snare of secret dating.
“I was convinced that if I dated him, I could make him learn to love Jehovah,” she says. Why They Do It Some youths pair off at an early age. The natural attraction of the opposite sex and a dose of peer pressure“Probably they’re scared of what their parents will say,” says Jeffrey, in Britain. “They know their parents would not approve,” he says, “so they don’t tell them.” A girl in Australia named Jane points out another possibility. “If you feel that you’re not being treated like the young adult you think you are, you decide that you’re going to do what you want and just not tell your parents.
Still, you may feel like Manami, in Japan, who says: “The pressure to date is so strong that I sometimes doubt my stand.
For kids today it’s unthinkable to be dating.” Some in that situation have begun to date and have hidden the matter from their parents. “We Were Told to Keep It a Secret” The very term “secret dating” suggests a measure of deception.
(1 Timothy ) After all, how would you feel if the relationship had harmful consequences? Suppose a friend who is diabetic is secretly eating sweets.
What if you found out about it, but your friend begged you not to tell anyone?
If you cannot be open about your dating, you should ask yourself why.
Another method is to arrange for a group activity, only to pair off later.
James, in Britain, says: “Once, a group of us were invited to meet at a location, only to discover that the whole thing had been set up so that two in the group could be together. “Dating without the intention of marriage is like advertising something you’re not selling,” says Evan, in the United States.
What would be your most important concern—covering up for your friend or taking action that could possibly save his or her life?
The same is true if you know someone who is dating secretly.
I’m so grateful that he gives us the direction we need at just the right time! Perhaps, as a young man named Thomas said, “they don’t want to be teased with questions like, ‘So when are you getting married?