But you don’t have to wait until someone cheats on you to break up with them. Because chances are there’s someone else out there who’s a better match for them than you are, too. Because I believe the American divorce rate isn’t due to people who were passionately in love but just drifted apart (although that happens, too).You can simply leave if your heart isn’t fully engaged. I believe it’s more due to people who just never should have been married in the first place.A “great” one won’t come your way unless you’re willing to pass on the ones that are merely “good.”So this is a simple plea: demand strong feelings from your relationship. Have the courage to believe that something better is out there.
Far more important is what shape you are in, how healthy you are, what activities you can do. If you’re active and like going for long walks and playing golf, you’re going to be much more interested in the fit and energetic 82-year-old who can share your activities than the 65-year-old with the hip replacement who can no longer walk long distances. Stitch Update: the registrations we are now seeing for Stitch is consistent with this sentiment, where the 50% of people are seeking companionship and not romance are telling us that age isn’t important to them as long as their companion can keep up with them.Once you’re into your wisdom years your needs, desires and expectations are very different from what you’re looking for when you’re in your 20s.Let’s take a look at nine things you (probably) didn’t know about dating for older adults: It seems counter-intuitive to say that people characterized by one attribute — how old they are — don’t care about age when looking for a companion, but it’s true.The classic “double-standard.”If the double standard doesn’t apply to you, it’s possible you have too much patience. Part of being an adult is being tolerant and accepting of others’ flaws. Which is why you owe it to both of you to move on, and give each other room to find a better match.But many of us just stay in something “good” for too long, hoping it will eventually blossom into something mind-blowing. It just says “good.”And if you’re not saying “I love you,” it’s not a tragic ending. The problem we’ve gotten into as a culture is that we feel like we don’t have the right to break up with someone if they haven’t done anything morally incomprehensible. And so do you.”And that’s the guilt-relieving part of my argument; you’re helping them find someone better, too.In the end, they fail to make space in their lives for the right person because there’s no room.