Radell Peischler, 34, a divorced sales representative from Arlington, Virginia, was so proud of her decision to freeze that she considered checking in on Facebook the morning of her egg retrieval at Shady Grove Fertility Center—until one of her male friends exclaimed, "Don't be a freak!
People don't want to hear about your crazy decision.""That was my first clue that not everyone would perceive it like I did," Peischler says.
"Now I just blurt it out and think of it as a test. I froze my eggs, and this is how far I've gone for what I want.'" The candor of those early conversations helped him warm to the idea of having more children, she believes.
If a guy isn't cool with it, then he's not an open enough person for me."Melanie Bradshaw, 39, a medical practice development manager from Alexandria, Virginia, also uses it to vet dates, specifically to gauge the depth of their desire to have children. Not only should freezers tell, but journalist Pooja Bhatia went so far as to argue that foot-dragging partners should do the decent thing and help pay for the procedure. ' It sort of killed the mood."And Anita, 40, a physician from Philadelphia who froze her eggs a couple of years ago, has adopted a strict "need to know" policy after she turned off a guy whom she'd been dating for a couple of months.
The one holiday where it is totally acceptable to contact an ex since you can easily blame it on the spiked eggnog/cider/cocktail.
I wanted time to enjoy us." Although they broke up a year and a half later, she thinks the relationship benefited from less baby pressure. In another instance, Shelley unwittingly turned a two-martini third date into a biology lesson when she mentioned the subject. One man replied, "Well, tick-tock, tick-tock," and torpedoed the date. Studies show that women feel more "empowered" after freezing their eggs, and the recent decisions by Facebook and Apple to offer the procedure as a corporate perk have given what used to be considered a sad, hushed act a certain cool factor.Yet when and how do you tell a potential partner you've frozen?She knew her friend's neighbor was on the fence about having more kids, since he already had an eight-year-old son and was in the middle of a divorce. "As months turn to years," she wrote in an article for digital magazine Perhaps more thorny than raising the topic in a new romance is telling someone you're already dating that you've decided to freeze. "Let's not worry about that," her five-years-younger boyfriend told her.So when the casual friendship turned romantic eight months ago, she was straight with him. Isn't that a sign that you're hedging your bets, setting aside some eggs to be fertilized by someone else later, in case the current union goes bust? Although Anita says she gave him the information to reassure him that she wasn't in a rush to marry and get pregnant, he still gave her the speech about not wanting to waste her time when he broke up with her.We have no idea how many women met partners and got pregnant on their own." Or how many are in relationships and trying to get pregnant naturally.