Your godly guy friend will guard his heart, make sure that you guard yours as well.Be mindful and prayerful before investing too much of your heart, energy or physical affection. All the prayers that you prayed, about doing God’s will, and wanting a person who will align to your desire of pleasing God, those are answered, and you may not like it as much in practice as you thought, or as books describe. If you dated/courted ungodly men before, this will not be the same, it is so much better.Love believes the best, loves the truth, doesn’t boast, is not quick to get angry – Once you learn this, you’ll think twice before you say “I love this man.” You will be forced to go back to your knees and be equipped to love by the Author of love in the same way He loved you.In being equipped, you will have supernatural ability to forgive, you will expect less and give more.
If he has any sense, he is making a mental note to never visit that coffee shop again and he officially hates cherry popsicles now.
But that won’t happen 20 minutes into your first coffee date. Have an idea of the guy you want to end up with, but stop attaching destiny and “God’s plan” to every little thing that happens.
You’re putting the cart before the horse, sister friend. It’s weird and guys can’t get to know you when they’re busy backing away from you slowly so as not to draw attention.
The purpose of a godly relationship and potential marriage is not about you, it’s about how you and that person can serve in the kingdom. He will take you to the cross and show you what love is about.
Therefore, if you allow God, He will strip you from your self-righteous thoughts and ideas. He will rid you from selfishness, self-centeredness, vanity and anger. All this because He has a plan for you that is better than all your fairy tale dreams.
You also probably shouldn’t tell each other about your most traumatic childhood memories or discuss your collection of rare cheeses or — I can’t believe I have to say this — drop the L-bomb. Plus, I already kind of know this guy because we’ve been in the same small group for the last three weeks.” Here’s a thought . More importantly, who made this rule about only dating the man you’re going to marry? What type of ministry do you see yourself going into?