Generally speaking, to get to the point of going on a date, there is some level of attraction there.However, unless you’re superficial or living in Lala Land, the point of dating is to build on the attraction, get to know the person, and ensure that whatever ideas and assumptions you have are grounded in reality.Now I get it – many people do date because they want to find someone to share a relationship with. If you’re feeling very ‘date or die’, tough as it may be to hear, it’s time to have an honest conversation with yourself and get your personal security in order.Ideally, I’d like to think they were all looking for a mutually fulfilling relationship with love, care, trust, and respect…but a lot of people don’t know what a relationship looks like, never mind a healthy one – they just know they want one. So badly in fact, that I hear too many tales of people going into fixing/helping/healing/arguing/crisis management mode when they hardly know their dates. Desperation and insecurity either draw in shady people or filter out decent people as it’s kind of exhausting.Like the issue of common interests and sexual attraction, there is this dangerous assumption that someone who we find worthy of dating in the first place must be someone who is worthy of a relationship.That’s called giving yourself far too much credit for your powers of judgement. Ask yourselves this: Why, if we’re dating, do we 1) act like we’re in a relationship or 2) not know when to fold and even if we see signs on day one that we should step away from the light, we try to work at dating? Leave Before you go on another date, evaluate your dating perspective. NOTE: If you want to attract one “special” girl and make her your girlfriend we shared 20 steps to getting a girlfriend here.From this group interview you’ll discover what are the BIGGEST attraction killers, how to avoid them, and learn the secrets to building attraction to get the number closes you’ve been longing for. If you’re perceived to be of higher status around the people you interact with, you hold the magical power to attract infinite women into your life.
– They were too far along in investment and illusions to have their feet in reality enough to be working out whether this person was someone that they actually should be with.By lying or ‘overstating’, they get to be with a better caliber of person, until their arses get turfed out. Sometimes we think we’re more interested than we are. Sometimes it’s because we’re emotionally immature, but sometimes it’s because we’re human and we change our minds or something imperceptible or very obvious turns us off. You may be in it for one reason, but some are in it for a shag, or whatever. Keep fit, hit the gym, eat healthy, and taking pride in what you wear.If you want to attract high value women start dressing like a high value man.I’ve been emphasising something over the past few months that I feel it’s time to revisit: Dating is a discovery phase.