Be prepared to be disabused, for whatever images you have conjured in your mind about finding love in Japan are certain to be skewed and not realistic, that is unless you’ve lived in the country before and you know the score.This isn’t to say that you as a foreigner can’t find love in Japan, because some people do indeed have success, but it does mean that you need to ‘clear your mind’ and realize that there is much that is different and much to learn on the subject of love in Japan.So be aware of this early on and know very your partners temperament well before you even think about getting married.They also have a terrible time admitting their feelings or communicating their emotions, as this is against their cultural mores.
And the same goes for men, many women will expect that once they are married that they will just stay at home all day.
Rule (men): If your Japanese girl lets you sleep over at her house while you are still only friends she may be a whore.
Warning: Japanese men are known to be controlling and like subservient women.
To the Japanese, shaving the ‘hair down there’ is considered very uncool, and has the connotation of being like a child.
Rule (both): Don’t count on the phrase ‘I love you’ to have the same weight that it does in the West. Instead you’ll have to come up with something more lengthy and creative to describe your feelings, such as: “I want to be with you for the rest of my life, etc etc etc” Rule (both): Splitting the bill on a date is perfectly acceptable in Japan.
Whether this is good or not depends on what you’re looking for.