They are a good balance; we’d never want one person to become a carer for the other.
I also bear in mind where each member lives, and whether it’ll be easy to meet up for dates.
Growing up, my best friend happened to have Down’s syndrome, and I loved helping him find a girlfriend at school.
The fact he had a disability was never an issue to me. I started off volunteering for the dating project eight years ago. Social events are a big part of how the project is run – they help members get to know one another before going on dates.
They’ve even asked me to be maid of honour – I’m over the moon.
While I encourage members to decide who they’d like to date, it’s useful to give them a steer.
As a matchmaker for people with learning disabilities, I regularly help would-be boyfriends and girlfriends, like Luke and Alice, find love.
My job is so rewarding, and I’ve loved playing an on-screen role on such a popular TV show.
I already knew the outcome of the date – after all, I’d brought the pair together – but that moment on Channel 4’s The Undateables was still beautiful to watch.‘You may be ready to get married,’ I’ll explain, ‘but relationships take time.’ We always leave a few weeks between dates, so members can process their feelings.Last year Channel 4 contacted me, asking if they could film our work for The Undateables.Members may have autism, Asperger’s, Down’s syndrome, or acquired brain injuries, and they join looking for relationships, which they may struggle to find in the real world. Blind dates would make some feel anxious, so this takes the pressure off.After a while I trained in disability awareness and got involved with the dating side. Ben, who has Asperger’s, met Holly, who has autism, at one of our discos.For example, they help each other with everyday skills, like managing money and cooking.