Then there's the whole idea that "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else." Which is right?How long should you , says it's hard to put a number on it—but you'll probably want to wait at least a month before jumping back into the dating pool again."Most people need a month or two to process the breakup, to mourn, and to integrate lessons before jumping back in if they were in a fairly serious relationship," she says.There are plenty of reasons why you might not want to have an official breakup conversation — namely, it can be awkward and seem dramatic.Or you could feel like the relationship just didn't really warrant a breakup.Yes, but it's complicated, says Samantha Burns, LMHC, a millennial relationship expert.
"This way, you will feel whole and in high self-esteem before you go back into the next relationship and won't just be trying to fill that hole," says Sherman.And whatever you do, don't compromise during this conversation, Burns says.You don't owe anyone the right to be in a relationship with you, even one with hazy boundaries."Ghosting is damaging to someone’s self-esteem and wastes emotional energy that could be better off invested back in the dating market," Burns says.So how exactly should you phrase this kind of breakup?But all too often, it's assumed that you can just let a casual relationship fizzle out and end without officially pronouncing it dead (a.k.a. Even though lots of people do this, it's not necessarily a good thing.