From my years of field research, I can assure you that a White man can be just as commitmentphobic, misogynistic and unreliable as a Black one.
As disappointing as this may be to the sistas who have bought into the Myth of the White Knight, .
For some reason, mainstream media has developed an obsession with Black women and our seemingly tragic lack of opportunites to jump the broom.
Unless you’re without access to the internet and broadband cable, by now you’ve heard that Black marriage rates are down and that Black women are more likely to be hit by lightning than to marry (I like to call this theory “The Black Female Thunderbolt Phenomenon”).
It’s when one of our own joins rank with the establishment that we’ve got to really ask ourselves “What the hell is going on?
” In his 2011 book “Ralph Richard Blanks, a law professor at Stanford University, states that one of the answers to the Black marriage crisis is for the mass of Steve Harvey advice-loving middle-class educated Black women to marry White men.
When I think about it, I get why mainstream news outlets would choose to perpetuate yet another unattractive stereotype of Black women.
Women, particularly Black women, are an easy target for a patriarchal industry.
But as far as I’m concerned, Blanks has somehow found a way to market positive eugenics as a rational solution to the decrease in the rate of Black marriages.What began as a murmur of Black women’s character defects, sociologically based theory and statistical data has grown into a steady roar about our supposed lack of desirability.It seems that Black women have bought into this sensationalistic message, paving the way for a small army of (allegedly) well-intentioned Black men peddling relationship advice to Black women to become wildly successful (and wealthy) all for teaching us how to think more like them while acting like us.I respect and appreciate the fact that Blanks and his Black social psychologist wife, Dr.Jennifer Eberhardt have dedicated a significant amount of their considerable brain power towards finding solutions for issues on race.Isn’t it time that we stop uplifting the White man as savior?