Life as a single person offers many rewards, such as being free to pursue your own hobbies and interests, learning how to enjoy your own company, and appreciating the quiet moments of solitude.
However, if you’re ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting, worthwhile relationship, life as a single person can also be frustrating.
You can't expect to date a supermodel if you aren't even taking care of yourself properly,” he notes.
Indeed, focusing on aesthetics is a red flag, agrees dating specialist Jo Barnett: “When someone starts their list with a description of how they want their partner to look, I know they are being too picky.
The truth is that we have lost touch with reality.” That’s not to say that being picky is the same as having high standards, points out Madeleine Mason, dating psychologist and director of dating expert company Passion Smiths.
“High standards refer to upholding principles of good manners and dating etiquette, reflecting respect, honour and authenticity to oneself and others and expecting the same behaviour in return.
Unsurprisingly, if you want to build a successful relationship, you have to start looking for more than pretty faces.
“Picky people will have a checklist of all the things they want in a partner and if they don't tick every box they give up,” Preece explains.
For many of us, our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey.
Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists.
Being picky, on the other hand, refers to a position of choosing or rejecting based on a narrow set of value or attributes.
Not everyone is picky, just the ones who deep down are afraid to open up,” she continues.
“A happy relationship is one that's built on shared values and interests as much as physical attraction.