Yeah, he may have thrown those dishdashas in the closet and traded them in for a pair of jeans, but in no way has his mind changed. Arab engagements differ from country to country so I won’t go into great detail about the exact procedures. The things above may make the Arab male seem unreasonable and make some wonder why a woman would even consider marrying one. On a positive note, when an Arab man does get married it’s almost as if he matures overnight.
You might have a beautiful ring on your finger and a date marked on the calendar, but if you haven’t met mom and the sisters, chances are you’re being strung along. I’m sure there are some out there with far more experience than me who could add numerous items to my lists. Not sure we’ll ever really understand their reasons, but with a lot of trust and mutual respect, the reasons don’t seem to matter.
Casual relationships: This is the one where you, the American woman, think you’re dating this really nice Arab guy and it feels like it’s getting serious. He says all the right things but his actions aren’t matching. He still lives with his mom and dad and he’s almost 30.
This comes from not wanting to ‘bother’ a woman with things that might upset her…
But out of respect for one another we ensure the other is always comfortable.
I wish I had all the answers and could guide everyone off into a land of never ending bliss. Women in the Arab culture are highly respected and taught to respect themselves. Expressing dislike for certain outfits or style of clothing you’re wearing.
I get a number of emails from American women asking advice about their Arab men. Some of the men are Arab but born and raised in America. And don’t ask to look through the one you DO know about… You’ll need to tell him where you’re going, with whom, and approximately how long you expect to be gone. 1-9 above still apply and perhaps seem even more frequent. You’re more than likely going to meet male cousins and maybe a brother or two.
Some of the women who write are working in Kuwait and dating a Kuwaiti. And during this time you’re expected to call him (though he’s not going to answer) and send endless text messages. Don’t ask me how, but Arab men are masters at turning things around. it’s ‘disrespectful’ and you’ll be accused of behaving like a man. If he’s not comfortable with your answers he’ll simply drive you himself.
He’s never treated me as anything less than his equal other than when it involves finances.
In his culture men have an obligation to truly take care of their wives.
In the bedoin culture men are often viewed as superior to women (by outsiders), but it’s not that way.